I just finished up my first week of having ALL 3 of my kids in school - ALL DAY! I have finally joined that "elite" group of Mom's whose kids are gone for 7 hours a day.
Many times during this last year I've had people remark at how great my life will be when all of my kids are in school. I haven't really known the best way to answer. The "Good Mom" part has always won out and replied with something like this, "I suppose it will be nice (sniff sniff), but I really love having my kids around and can't imagine what I will do when they are all gone..."
So, now with 1 kid free week under my belt I have let the "Bad Mom" surface with little conversations with myself about how GREAT, FANTASTIC, REJUVENATING, UNBELIEVABLE, FUN, and INSPIRING it is to have everyone in school.
Now is when the "internal struggle" happens. Why do I make myself feel guilty for enjoying some time without my kids? Does it make me a less than great Mom? Am I a better Mom because I spend every minute of everyday with them? Does it mean that I love them less because I don't sit at home and pine away for them while they are in school?
I don't think so.
So - here's to week 2!
Saturday, August 1, 2009
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4 comments:
I have to think that you are normal. And we all have the same internal conflict. We love to have our children around but like the ease of life while they are occupied learning all day!
Im only a few years away from the 7 hour kidless bliss, oh waite did I say that out loud I mean I will be devestated when they are all in school. Your right it is the good mom verses the bad mom struggle. We are both fantastic mothers and we should enjoy a little alone time...
So true, so true!!
Z goes to kindergarten in a few weeks. It is full day, but he did go to preschool everyday for 3 hours this past school year, so I have had a little taste of how it will be. With B at home, will it give me the time to spend with her like I did with Z before she was born? Does that make it all better?
I will for sure miss him and will worry about him while he is away from home :(
I hear you. Just getting ready to send Lydia off for Kindergarten has been hard to prepare myself for but I know it will be ok. Now in three years when it is Kendyl, I know I will struggle with that one. However it will be nice to just have alone time again. After all they return home at 3:30 and the chaos begins all over again. Enjoy your alone time.
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